When you think of love, what comes to mind? Perhaps it’s a quiet dinner together with your significant other or simply time spent outside reflecting on the beauty in nature. You may think that love is how you feel when that special someone calls you or when you look into each other’s eyes. However, are you aware of the profound effects of being able to not only give, but to also receive unconditional love in your health and healing?
Growing up, I thought I had known about and experienced love, but when I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, that is what actually started my journey of self-awareness and discovery, when I realized that at that point in my life, I knew love on an intellectual level. I did not truly feel it in my heart. That is, in fact, one of the many contributing factors that I believe led to my diagnosis. Being confronted with my mortality was the opportunity that allowed me to learn and truly experience unconditional love.
You see, in a society that values achievement and productivity, it’s easy to focus on achieving because it’s what’s expected of us and inwardly, we may believe that our achievements will somehow win us love and approval from others. These may include our parents and family, the leaders in our churches, our professors, or supervisors and coworkers at work. Now, I’m not saying that being productive and achieving are not good goals to strive towards. It’s only when these goals take the place of love in our lives that it can lead to unintended and likely, undesirable consequences. You see, whenever we do things to please others, to the extent that we lose sight of our own desires, then we are doing a disservice to ourselves and to others because we’ve failed to first, love and accept ourselves. If we don’t love and accept ourselves, the cells in our bodies pick up on this and, as a result, suffer with the accompanying biochemical signaling. While we may not be aware of this on a conscious level, our cells respond to how we really feel, even subconsciously.
Many of us have been taught that to love ourselves is selfish and narcissistic. However, if you look in the Bible in Mark 12:31, you’ll see that Jesus taught us to “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Perhaps you may have focused so much on loving others that you may not have considered the second part of that scripture, which is that you love yourself. The truth is that you cannot actually love others, if you don’t love yourself because you can’t give that which you don’t have. If you can’t love yourself, how are you going to truly be able to love another human being?
When I became so sick from ovarian cancer that I could no longer work, as I was bedridden in hospice, I had to come to terms with love—both self-love and being able to not only give, but to receive unconditional love from God. I learned from Dr. Christina LaCroix at the Walter Reed National Military Medical Center that cancer is always an indication that there is an area in our lives that is not integrated with who we are. That’s when it occurred to me that I was so focused on taking care of the mission and the people who worked for me that I lost self-awareness. That, in essence, is not loving of self as I failed to take into account my own personal needs. While I took care of myself on a physical level, emotionally, I lost track of what was important to me. This pattern went on for nearly three decades of my life.
So, what changed all of this?
While being in hospice is not what most would equate to being a blessing, it actually was the best gift that I could have received because, being unable to operate within my normal patterns of behavior of working and achieving, I finally took the time to reflect on life and to see what was really going on in my life. During this time, I was studying at the Institute of Integrative Nutrition (IIN), and yes, I was still trying to learn all I could in order to recover holistically, when a fellow student in Singapore learned of my condition. Even though she didn’t personally know me, she generously sent me some of the best essential oils for healing from cancer. This was an overwhelming sign that confirmed to me that I was loved.
Moreover, being too weak to make my fresh wheatgrass and green vegetable juices, I prayed for God to send someone to help me. He responded by sending me a medical missionary, who not only knew how to make all of those fresh green juices, but she also knew the intricacies of the exact organic, raw, living vegan diet that I was on, helped me with various detoxification methods, along with hyper- and hypothermia. She even knew how to use my Norwalk Juicer. This was no coincidence! Her arrival to help me just before I went into hospice, was an amazingly synchronous moment. She knew how to stop the internal hemorrhages that I was experiencing using natural means. I knew, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that her coming to help me was divinely orchestrated by God.
After she had been helping me for a month, she came to me one day, after her prayers, telling me, rather sadly, that it was time for her to leave. I did not know how I would manage, as I was alone. However, that’s when my cousin and my aunt, who said that she would never get on another airplane again, offered immediately to travel from the west coast to where I was on the east coast. I had not even thought about the next step after the medical missionary’s departure, but that is how God moved on my behalf to bring much-needed help to me. A month later, my sister and her husband came to help me, as God continued to bring my family members to come to help me in the most perfect timing, for each phase of my healing and recovery. Even when I was in the hospitals, and in physical and occupational rehabilitation, God moved one of the therapists, who had never prepared raw vegan foods in her life, to spend a weekend making raw vegan foods for me, even though I had never asked her to do so. Yet another IIN student whom I had never met, drove an hour out of her way to bring me fresh vegetable juice and foods that she had made for me. Later, more friends and family members would come to visit, bringing fresh living foods to help support my recovery.
When I reflected this all, it moved me to tears as I saw God’s undeniable hand in all of this and felt loved in such a way as I had never felt before. I believe that being able to feel and receive unconditional love is incredibly powerful and healing and is what helped to turn around my grim prognosis of only having 4 weeks to live.
Why is love so powerful?
Dr. Max Planck, the German physicist who won the Nobel Prize in Physics in 1918 for developing quantum theory, once stated that “All the physical matters are composed of vibration.” The unit of measure for indicating the frequency at which particles vibrate is called the Hertz (Hz), which is defined in terms of cycles per second. Therefore, things that appear solid can actually be broken down into very tiny particles that are all vibrating in motion. This applies to our bodies as well. A healthy body vibrates at between 62-72 Hz. However, if you drink a cup of coffee, for example, this lowers your body’s frequency to 52 Hz. Being at this frequency actually causes you to become more susceptible to the Epstein-Barr Virus; and when your body vibrates at 42 Hz, that is the frequency associated with cancer. Each of your organs, in fact, has its own resonant frequencies. For example, the heart’s frequency is between 67-70 Hz. Wherever there is a decrease in the frequencies from each of the organs in your body, is where disease may potentially occur.
However, the good news is that according to Dr. Leonard Horowitz, we can heal from the healing frequencies that exist in our universe and refers to 528 Hz as the “frequency of love.” Dr. Glen Rein continues further with how this specific frequency may resonate with DNA in such a way that it can repair DNA. The mechanism is rather amazing in that exposure to 528 Hz increases the absorption of UV light, where the relaxation or unwinding of the DNA helix permits for the absorption of UV light, providing the energy needed to repair DNA.
In his book, The Biology of Belief, Dr. Bruce Lipton writes about how the cells in our bodies can be in a state of growth or a state of protection. They cannot, however, be in two states. I have seen him speaking at some of the conferences that I attend where he shows how love provides the healing frequency that allows for the growth of cells, whereas the frequency from fear sets the cell up in a state of protection. This is because fear creates stress, which increases cortisol release, increasing blood sugar and blood pressure, to prepare us to fight or flee. When the body is in a state of protection, it will shut down other functions like digestion and reproduction, in order to survive. That is why it is easier to catch a cold or flu under times of stress.
So, if you’re dealing with cancer, or some other chronic health condition, what’s the best way heal?
- Learn to love and accept yourself. Nobody is perfect. We are all here along this journey of life, so show yourself the same love and compassion that you would for others that you care about. Rather than struggling with being self-critical because you may not have met your own internal standards, realize that from this moment forward, you can shift your perception and beliefs about yourself as a human being on your way towards personal growth and development.
- Become more transparent. Rather than giving into the compulsion to appear perfect to everyone else on the outside, be willing to look at yourself with a sense of humor and not take yourself so seriously. Realize that you’re not perfect, and be okay with it. When others see your openness and transparency, it will build trust and you’ll find that your relationships will become even stronger through this process. By becoming more transparent and open, you are allowing your fears of being judged or criticized fall away, realizing that you’re not alone as there are others on a similar path and journey.
- Be open to learning, about yourself and this world that we live in. Never cease to maintain your curiosity about the world. When you observe children, you may notice their natural curiosity. Cultivate this same curiosity within yourself. You’ll be amazed at how much you can continue to learn, which will help you to continue to develop yourself in mind, body, and spirit so that you can continue to grow. As you allow yourself to marvel in the wonder at all that surrounds you, you will feel the overwhelming sense of love that is all around you. For example, I feel love from simply studying the intricacies of a plant, seeing a squirrel or rabbit, or feeling the warmth from sunshine.
- Be open to receiving love. The ultimate love is unconditional love, the love that comes from God, which is a powerful love because it is without condition. So, despite our mistakes in life, it is a love that persists into all eternity. When you receive this love, it truly frees you to be who you were created to be because, according to 1 John 4:18, “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear…”
In his book, Love is Letting Go of Fear, Dr. Gerald Jampolksky writes that “With Love as our only reality, health and wholeness can be viewed as inner peace, and healing can be seen as letting go of fear.” Here, we see that the opposite of love is not hate, as may be commonly thought. Instead, the opposite of love is fear. Therefore, if you’re struggling with ill health and feelings of fear, no matter the circumstances, allow love to come into your life, your being, and be transformed, so that you can love your life, and live in health.
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