Every day, we deal with people. Often, we don’t know the extent of the circumstances that those around us are dealing with until either something happens, or they are willing to open up to us and share the issues that have been going on in their lives. Everyone has a story to tell, yet we’re often too overwhelmed with our own lives and stories to deal with the issues of others.
For those of us who tend to be empathetic, whether we’re more in tune with the energies of the people around us, or are often the listening ear to our friends and co-workers, we have the capability of absorbing or taking on the feelings that are being shared with us. Although our initial intent is to be helpful in someone else’s time of need, we must also be mindful of how we take on those feelings as they could affect our bodies if not handled appropriately.
In the reproductive system in women, biological conflicts can be created from “not being able to get pregnant” or “not being able to hold a fetus.” This conflict can arise from actions that we’ve taken, such as the use of IUDs, birth control, abortions, or even with our own thought patterns.
According to Doctors Ryke Geerd Hamer and Caroline Markolin, having empathy for a close one, such as a child, close friend or spouse, who is unable to bear or create a child due to biological or psychological issues, can actually cause this conflict within our own body.
Often, in women, this conflict can create uterine fibroids. In men, it can cause infertility or erectile dysfunction. During this conflict, the cells in the uterus begin to multiply at a rapid rate to strengthen the uterine walls in order to hold a fetus. This rapid proliferation of uterine cells is what forms fibroids. The size of the fibroid is determined by the length of time that the conflict exists. Fibroids can cause very heavy bleeding and painful menstrual cycles.
Additional conflicts that can affect the size of fibroids in women and the extent of erectile dysfunction in men are the conflicts dealing with abandonment and existence. With the issue of abandonment, one tends to feel excluded, isolated, rejected, unwanted and/or misunderstood. The conflict around existence is characterized as the fear of one’s life, which can be brought on by a diagnosis or loss of a job.
When I reflect on my own personal experience, I don’t believe that it was a coincidence, or that I was just “unlucky” in getting diagnosed with ovarian cancer and having uterine fibroids. For those of you who know me, I have never had the blessing to be pregnant or to give birth. You see, I was too busy with my job in the military to focus on relationships. As a child, I dreamt about having children “someday” but that “someday” never came for me because of the work ethic with which I was raised. I believe that this helped to create a conflict within me, first emotionally, then biologically.
I also dealt with abandonment issues because when I was born, my mother was too sick to take care of me. So, together with my father, she found a babysitter in the classified ads in the newspaper, someone who was a total stranger who took care of several other babies. For my first 30 days after being born, I did not experience the nurturing from my mother. Instead, my sister confirmed for me that I was neglected as I was returned back to my mother scrawny, thin, and with a body covered with rashes.
Finally, a lasting self-devaluation conflict can weaken the ligaments that hold the uterus, and may lead to the prolapse of the uterus. This conflict is a result of feelings of “I’m not good enough” or “I can’t do anything right.”
Growing up as the youngest in my family, sometimes, my older siblings would easily blame me for things that went wrong. I can remember feeling very strongly as a child that I just couldn’t seem to do things right and that something was wrong with me, even if this was not true.
These biological conflicts, brought on by psychological issues, can be prevented with properly caring for oneself. To do so, you have to first become aware of the feelings within you. Acknowledging your emotions in a non-judgmental manner is the most important step towards self-acceptance. Until you are able to fully embrace who you are and accept your feelings, an emotional conflict will exist, creating biological conflicts. Therefore, by accepting yourself fully, you can prevent these conflicts from occurring, and live more fully in harmony with yourself as well as with others.
In being an empathetic ear for someone, it’s important that you learn to let go of the feelings and energy that you take on when trying to help your friends and loved ones. Some believe that it’s important to say a quick prayer of protection before and after listening to the problems of others. I am also aware of others who will use alternative energetic exercises to rid the body of the feelings of others so that their bodies are not affected in a negative manner. Even essential oils can be used to purify the space energetically where negative emotions have surfaced.
We are all here to be a part of a larger community. None of us were meant to be isolated as an island to ourselves. We are our brothers’ keeper. It’s important to help others whenever possible; however, we must also be aware of the importance of taking care of ourselves during these moments.
If you have found that you have taken on the burden of so many others, and have not found a healthy and effective way to rid your body of those hurts, please know that I am here for you and can help you to find ways to uncover and release these feelings that are buried in your cells, so that you can live a much healthier and happier life.
Ready to make your health a priority? Contact me here to schedule your consultation.
